Coping With Lots of Emotions in These Troubled Times

It’s a steady drip of disturbing news. From what’s been happening nationally to layoffs locally (not to mention war and climate change), hearing about it can bring up different emotions on different days. It can be tough to hold it all together, to feel okay. In this post I describe what many are feeling these days, how it’s playing out behaviorally, and how to cope in the most therapeutic way possible.

Where We Focus Attention Matters, in EMDR Therapy and in Life

Want to optimize your EMDR therapy? Want to improve your relationships, and be able to focus at work, no matter what’s happening in your life? Where you focus your attention is everything. In this post you’ll pick up research-based methods to build this very important skill.

A couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know

Your favorite song’s playing, and you’re singing along. Are you stopping to think about the lyrics? Probably not, if you’re like most of us. Our favorite artists write about love, sex, infatuation, heartache, jealousy, etc. After repeated listens, their words wind up being stored in our motor memory. We might subconsciously come to regard it with unquestioning deference. With the health of your love life in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of offering a couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know. [God help us all.]

5 more ways to come home to your partner

You’re about to walk in after a long day of work. You’re tired. You’re feeling kinda cranky. But you’re about to see the one person you care about the most. In a previous post, I spelled out five ways to come home to your partner. Well, I’ve been thinking, and here are five more.