A couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know

Your favorite song’s playing, and you’re singing along. Are you stopping to think about the lyrics? Probably not, if you’re like most of us. Our favorite artists write about love, sex, infatuation, heartache, jealousy, etc. After repeated listens, their words wind up being stored in our motor memory. We might subconsciously come to regard it with unquestioning deference. With the health of your love life in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of offering a couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know. [God help us all.]

5 more ways to come home to your partner

You’re about to walk in after a long day of work. You’re tired. You’re feeling kinda cranky. But you’re about to see the one person you care about the most. In a previous post, I spelled out five ways to come home to your partner. Well, I’ve been thinking, and here are five more.

What is relational trauma, and can EMDR help?

We are all wounded. Though not necessarily in the physical sense, we have all been impacted. None of us is immune. Here we’ll discuss what relational trauma is, and how Attachment-Focused EMDR can help.

anxiety, therapy, traumaAndrew KushnickSeptember 24, 2018parenting, attachment

“Is it wrong to need my space?” In defense of the distancer.

One partner wants proximity, while the other wants distance. This pursuer-distancer dynamic is super-common and can become a persistent theme that causes arguments. In this blog post, we’ll explore what’s really going on for the distancer. A quick teaser: They’re not just being difficult.

relationships, couples therapyAndrew KushnickSeptember 3, 2018attachment, attachment theory, communication