Trauma goes well beyond what we think it is. Unfortunately, when early caregivers are distracted or anxious, or make their child feel badly about emotions that happen naturally, it registers in the brain as traumatic. This leads to patterns that negatively affect us in our relationships, in our work, and in our daily functioning. In this post, we explore things that you wouldn’t expect to be trauma, and what you can do about it.
Read MoreWhat really happens in marriage counseling? Does your relationship have to be in really bad shape to go? Is it just a place for couples to sling mud at each other? Is it the same as couples therapy? In this post, we’ll dispel the myths and give you the real deal… What actually happens in a session, how it might benefit you, and whether it’s worth it.
Read MoreYour favorite song’s playing, and you’re singing along. Are you stopping to think about the lyrics? Probably not, if you’re like most of us. Our favorite artists write about love, sex, infatuation, heartache, jealousy, etc. After repeated listens, their words wind up being stored in our motor memory. We might subconsciously come to regard it with unquestioning deference. With the health of your love life in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of offering a couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know. [God help us all.]
Read MoreIn Full-Stack Relationship Development: 10 Back-End Processes, we explored 10 processes that impact relationships. Now we’ll learn 10 skills to help you tune up those processes, helping you figure out what’s happening within yourself, what’s happening for another person, and effectively navigating a difficult conversation.
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