Trauma goes well beyond what we think it is. Unfortunately, when early caregivers are distracted or anxious, or make their child feel badly about emotions that happen naturally, it registers in the brain as traumatic. This leads to patterns that negatively affect us in our relationships, in our work, and in our daily functioning. In this post, we explore things that you wouldn’t expect to be trauma, and what you can do about it.
Read MoreWelcome to “Profiles in Tech,” a blog series focusing on the unique mindset of the techie. Each post derives from an interview with an engineer, programmer, or developer in the San Francisco Bay Area. We’ll begin with “Derek,” a software engineer who’s exploring the role that coding plays in his life, and what it means to be productive.
Read MoreWe beat ourselves up with thoughts. We replay conversations and interactions, ruminating over anything we might have done wrong… our words, our actions, our decisions. We judge ourselves to be “not good enough.” It's so common. Thankfully, my friends, you can stop the suffering. Read on to learn 9 effective ways to stop being self-critical.
Read MoreDo you agonize over every detail in a slide deck? Spend 20 minutes composing a one-paragraph email? Perfectionism at work can be stressful and distracting. Even worse, it can cause you to hate your job. In this post we’ll identify where your perfectionism likely comes from, how to recognize when it shows up, and how to release yourself from its grip. Ironically, by getting out of your own way, you’ll get more of what you’re looking for.
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