5 More Cheesy Relationship Analogies That Every Couple Should Know

It all started with “5 Cheesy Relationship Analogies That Every Couple Should Know.” Analogies that were totally cheesy, but easy to remember. When you’re in an argument with your significant other, higher brain function can be hard to come by. Anything you can remember from therapy is likely to help. Since then, couples have told me that they’re using some of ‘em successfully, but not every analogy resonates with everyone. Clearly, a sequel was necessary. So try them out, and see if you can steer your relationship towards peace.

Profiles in Tech, Part III: Life in the Middle

Our third installment of “Profiles in Tech” focuses on Rebecca, a senior product designer and mid-level manager at a large tech company. In liaising between product managers and software engineers, and in getting her direct reports to discuss their feelings, Rebecca impressively bridges the left brain and the right brain. This blog series highlighting the unique mindset of those who work in tech… their outlook, their concerns, and their quest for fulfillment. Each post derives from an interview with an engineer, programmer, or developer in the San Francisco Bay Area, and begins with their story, followed by a few reflections from a mental health perspective.

techiesAndrew KushnickFebruary 25, 2020brain, communication, neuroscience, parenting, empathy

9 ways to stop being self-critical

We beat ourselves up with thoughts. We replay conversations and interactions, ruminating over anything we might have done wrong… our words, our actions, our decisions. We judge ourselves to be “not good enough.” It's so common. Thankfully, my friends, you can stop the suffering. Read on to learn 9 effective ways to stop being self-critical.

CBTAndrew KushnickSeptember 24, 2019compassion, mindfulness, empathy, self-help, perfectionism, self-critic, anxiety, stress

A couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know

Your favorite song’s playing, and you’re singing along. Are you stopping to think about the lyrics? Probably not, if you’re like most of us. Our favorite artists write about love, sex, infatuation, heartache, jealousy, etc. After repeated listens, their words wind up being stored in our motor memory. We might subconsciously come to regard it with unquestioning deference. With the health of your love life in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of offering a couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know. [God help us all.]