What to Do When You're Triggered: 25 Tips From an EMDR Therapist

We all get triggered. Literally everyone. We find ourselves reacting strongly to something, and it makes us super-anxious, angry, or overwhelmed. I’m sure you know the feeling… your heart starts racing, you can’t think of anything else… it’s like tunnel vision. So what can you do to quickly recover, so it doesn’t wreck your day? It’s a question that comes up so often in EMDR therapy. In this post are 25 easy, practical methods for you to use right away. And better yet, they’re science-based and brain-based. Have at it!

mindfulness, traumaAndrew KushnickMarch 25, 2024anxiety, brain, compassion, EMDR, window of tolerance, self-help, neuroscience, stress

Languishing and Lousy News: 12 Ways to Master the "Meh."

We’re still not back to “normal.” So many of us are living in a new reality, with disrupted routines and continued frustration when we hear things in the news. All of this can lead us to feel stuck, kinda blah. Not psyched about much. Unfocused. Withdrawn from the people we care about. Forgetting things. It’s not depression, but it’s not a true sense of well-being either. Mental health professionals call this “languishing,” and it’s a thing. In this post, we offer 12 ways to get through it, to master the “meh.”

mindfulness, self-help, traumaAndrew KushnickDecember 13, 2021brain, change, compassion

9 ways to stop being self-critical

We beat ourselves up with thoughts. We replay conversations and interactions, ruminating over anything we might have done wrong… our words, our actions, our decisions. We judge ourselves to be “not good enough.” It's so common. Thankfully, my friends, you can stop the suffering. Read on to learn 9 effective ways to stop being self-critical.

CBTAndrew KushnickSeptember 24, 2019compassion, mindfulness, empathy, self-help, perfectionism, self-critic, anxiety, stress

5 cheesy relationship analogies that every couple should know

“Bumpers in the bowling lane? The first grader’s painting? Wtf?” I know, I know… I can explain. In my work with couples therapy, over time I’ve found myself using analogies to illustrate various concepts about relationships. They’re cheesy, but they might just help you and your partner defuse tension more quickly.