Posts in couples therapy
The Couple's Survival Guide to Sheltering In Place

“Sheltering in place” totally sucks. You may be “flattening the curve,” but you’re so over the claustrophobia and the isolation. If you’ve living with a significant other, you likely face additional challenges that a 24-pack of toilet paper can’t fix. In this post, I offer 10 tips for surviving (and thriving) as a couple in these strange times. Powerful practices to remember when things get tense.

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A couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know

Your favorite song’s playing, and you’re singing along. Are you stopping to think about the lyrics? Probably not, if you’re like most of us. Our favorite artists write about love, sex, infatuation, heartache, jealousy, etc. After repeated listens, their words wind up being stored in our motor memory. We might subconsciously come to regard it with unquestioning deference. With the health of your love life in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of offering a couples therapist’s take on song lyrics that you know. [God help us all.]

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5 cheesy relationship analogies that every couple should know

“Bumpers in the bowling lane? The first grader’s painting? Wtf?” I know, I know… I can explain. In my work with couples therapy, over time I’ve found myself using analogies to illustrate various concepts about relationships. They’re cheesy, but they might just help you and your partner defuse tension more quickly.

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10 Full-Stack Relationship Skills: Tuning Up the Processes

In Full-Stack Relationship Development: 10 Back-End Processes, we explored 10 processes that impact relationships. Now we’ll learn 10 skills to help you tune up those processes, helping you figure out what’s happening within yourself, what’s happening for another person, and effectively navigating a difficult conversation.

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