Full-Stack Relationship Development: 10 Back-End Processes

We often use front-end language to describe frustrating relationship dynamics. We’ll recite the words spoken and actions taken (“She had the nerve to say I didn’t care,” “He walked out of the room while I was talking,” etc.). But human interactions are guided by so much more than that. In this post, you’ll learn 10 back-end processes that impact relationships, helping you figure out what’s causing tension, why the disagreement started, and how it worsened.

relationships, techiesAndrew KushnickDecember 21, 2018relationships, communication, neuroscience, brain, attachment theory, anxiety, trauma

5 more ways to come home to your partner

You’re about to walk in after a long day of work. You’re tired. You’re feeling kinda cranky. But you’re about to see the one person you care about the most. In a previous post, I spelled out five ways to come home to your partner. Well, I’ve been thinking, and here are five more.

“Is it wrong to need my space?” In defense of the distancer.

One partner wants proximity, while the other wants distance. This pursuer-distancer dynamic is super-common and can become a persistent theme that causes arguments. In this blog post, we’ll explore what’s really going on for the distancer. A quick teaser: They’re not just being difficult.

relationships, couples therapyAndrew KushnickSeptember 3, 2018attachment, attachment theory, communication

Put your phone down, and what do you get?

Our little glass boxes are enticing… even addictive. Our necks are craned downward, fixated on this device for hours. But the real world awaits. It’s calling out and inviting us. Is it worth it? Should we lift our heads up? Is it worth it? What would we get if we put our phones down?